You’re in a bind, aren’t you?
There’s something to be said about being open, and honest, and saying what you feel, and having the guts to speak your mind. It’s pretty true, and pretty accurate to say that you’re always pretty honest, but there’s something that holds you back: the consequence, and the fear of the absence of predictability.
Once, you told a guy you really liked him, and you’d like to see where things go. You put it out there, made it a thing, with no pressure, and the consequence? Nothing unbearable, but you extended your feelings, and those feelings weren’t good enough, so why ever do it again? It’s frightening, but you could just say it, and then it could be over with, and then you know, instead of not ever knowing. Then again, why not just wait to hear it from someone else?
Because you don’t get what you want by waiting, or settling.
But there’s the feelings from the flip side – someone who is nice (you guess), who is into you, but you don’t click at all. You tell them that you aren’t interested, but they don’t just go away as you expect. They keep hounding, you and finding you, and they won’t just let up. You find it clingy, and nonsensical, but how do you say that without seeming like a real jerk?
It’s always these things that feel difficult. As much as you want to say something, anything, sometimes it’s best to guard your words, and remind yourself that loose lips sink ships. Your words could have an adverse effect, and then what?